Emotional Support

support handsEmotional support is the most comforting thing you can offer to someone who has been assaulted. Letting a victim know you’re there for them can help the healing process tremendously. Examples of phrases of emotional support are:

  • I hear what you’re saying.
  • It’s not your fault.
  • Thank you for talking to me
  • You’re doing the right thing.

Other things you can do to support emotionally

  • Let silence happen. Sometimes your loved one needs to reflect!
  • Don’t ask questions that begin with “why”. It could sound accusatory, inadvertently putting your loved one on edge.

AVOID CLICHES!

If you want to support your loved one, don’t give them dime-store advice. Anybody can do that. Really listen to your loved one.
Cliches include (but are not limited to):

  • You’ve got to get a handle on yourself.
  • You have to be strong for (insert name).
  • Time will heal.
  • You’re not yourself.
  • You’re not over this yet?
  • Someone is always worse off.
  • Count your blessings, it could be worse.
  • This is God’s way/plan/will.
  • I know how you feel.
  • You’ll be fine.